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Your Wife or Girlfriend Wants a Divorce or Separation?

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Your wife or girlfriend tells you she wants a divorce or separation. You are in a panic, not knowing what to do.

Even though you can understand some of the reasons as to why she is telling you that she wants out. Nonetheless, you want to keep your relationship together.

My advice is don’t give up hope and follow the five steps below.

VIDEO: Your Wife or Girlfriend Wants a Divorce (and the five steps to get her back)

Here are 5 steps to increase the likelihood that your wife or girlfriend will want to be married or in a committed relationship with you:

1. Stop ALL bad behavior

Ask your partner what you have done to make her unhappy.

Make a list of what she tells you so you will remember.

Ask questions to increase your understanding of WHY she is unhappy.

You really need to understand her experience living with you.

When your partner explains why she is unhappy, do not get mad at her or defend your behavior.

If you do, she will feel you are excusing and minimizing her feelings about your “bad behavior.”

After considering what your wife or girlfriend has told you if reasonable, correct any behaviors that she finds offensive.

Read articles, and books, or get qualified professional help to root out “bad behavior” and replace it with “good behavior.”

2. Apologize

When you understand how your wife or girlfriend has been hurt, you can now tell her you are “sorry.”

You don’t have to agree that ALL your behavior was ‘bad.’

However, who do have to regret she was hurt by you.

Acknowledgment that regardless of your intentions, she was hurt by you is important to her.

This validation will help her to feel understood and will bring her closer to you.

3. Stop all expressions of anger

Anger and love cannot coexist together.

When both are present in equal measure, anger will always prevail.

Anger destroys relationships!

You may not like or approve of everything your wife or girlfriend does but you do need to stay calm and respectful.

If you find staying calm difficult, get some anger management help.

At the bottom of this video is a link to a wonderful anger management audiobook that has helped thousands of couples restore love, respect, and friendship.

You listen to it for only 8-minutes-a-day. It is available on Amazon.

4. Court your wife or girlfriend

Courtship does not end when you and your partner start living together.

Recall the activities you did together that led to your falling in love with each other.

Start doing them again, find new fun activities, and continue doing them in the future.

Courtship requires effort, and the reward will be a loving and lasting relationship.

5. A ‘committed’ relationship is a ‘voluntary’ relationship

Relationship fact: Your wife or girlfriend will stay with you ONLY if you are pleasant to be with.

You put a lot of time, effort, and money into looking attractive.

You also need to be EMOTIONALLY ATTRACTIVE.

You need to be kind, generous, cooperative, and accepting.

When you are emotionally attractive, your wife or girlfriend will want to be with you.

So your wife or girlfriend has told you “she wants a divorce,” and she will get it! — unless you can prove in word and deed that you are becoming a better husband or boyfriend.


VIDEO: Tips for Men When Your Wife Wants a Divorce

Marriage Builder Tips For Men: Relationship Harmony

Do you want your woman’s love?

Yes.

Then she must be at peace with you.

A woman hates discord.

Criticism, anger, and arguing cause her to feel distant, and she will ‘fall out of love.’

When your wife or girlfriend experiences you like a cactus with sharp needles, don’t expect her to hug you!

Criticism, anger, teasing, name-calling, and threats are like sharp needles piercing her emotional skin.

Your wife or girlfriend often disregards what she wants in favor of what she thinks you want.

When her sincere efforts ‘fail to please,’ she feels unappreciated and sad.

She may even lose hope of ever pleasing you.

‘Hopelessness’ is a dangerous place for your wife or girlfriend to be!

She may give up emotionally, go away, and never come back.

Many men are in a sexless marriage because they have emotionally alienated their wife or girlfriend.

Be a smart guy!

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