Professional Emotional Abuse Test: Am I emotionally abused?

Find out if you are being emotionally abused by taking this test

Take the FREE Emotional Abuse Test. Learn the signs of abuse.

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Find out in 2-minutes if you are living with an emotional abuser!

Emotional Abuse Test explained — should you take it?

Emotional abuse in an intimate relationship is primarily characterized by one individual dominating the other. This type of abuse can take many forms such as insults, criticism, belittling, name-calling, and actual or threats of physical violence.

The Emotional Abuse Test is a tool to help determine if you are in an abusive relationship. If you answer “yes” to any of the questions on this test, there is a chance that you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship.

If you are in a high-conflict relationship, it is important to know the common signs of abuse to determine if you are being emotionally abused.

If you are being emotionally abused, you are being injured spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.

When you take this emotional abuse test, you can determine with reasonable accuracy if you are being emotionally abused. Get more information on abuse and domestic violence at the National Network To End Domestic Violence.

Please note: verbal abuse, mental abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, domestic violence, and financial abuse are all types of emotional abuse. This professional Emotional Abuse Test is based on the work of Brian Jory, Ph.D. in Journal of Marital and Family Therapy.

15 easy to answer questions and Choose your answer

Note: The results of this Emotional Abuse Test are not definitive, and for the most accurate results seek the counsel of a certified relationship specialist. The author of this site, Abe Kass, assumes no responsibility for any inaccuracies or unintended misinformation. The user of this Emotional Abuse Test and associated information does so at his or her own risk.

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Emotional abuse flags

Does your partner insist he or she is always right and you are always wrong?

Do you have the feeling that your partner wants you to admit that he or she is superior to you?

Do you tiptoe around your partner for fear of triggering an angry outburst?

Does your partner withhold material items or affection?

Is your partner often grumpy or irritable?

Does your partner threaten you?

Is your partner selfish and uncooperative?

Do you and your partner often get into verbal arguments?

Do you feel unloved or misunderstood by your partner?

If you answer “yes” to any of these questions, the relationship you are in may be abusive. You need to learn more to find out the truth — are you in an abusive relationship or not?

Not every selfish, unloving, or angry partner is an abuser

Some partners, although very unpleasant to be around, simply lack the skills to control their anger and behave with kindness, sensitivity, and friendship but are not abusers.

Emotional abusers are not only selfish, unloving, and angry, they ALSO seek to control their partners.

Abusers want to dominate, make all the decisions, and direct every aspect of their partner’s life.

Knowing the truth about your relationship — if it is abusive or not — is necessary so you can take practical steps to improve your relationship, protect yourself, and protect other family members.

A non-abusive, unpleasant partner can be helped by learning what is a healthy relationship. Such a partner has no interest in controlling you. He or she selfishly wants to get his or her way. And yes, this is ‘wrong’ — but it is NOT abuse!

On the other hand, if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, you need to find an effective way to stop the abuse!

Individuals who live in an emotionally abusive relationship,  which includes verbal abuse, mental abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, and financial abuse, suffer from lowered self-esteem, humiliation, and fear — and this is no way to live!

As well, there is always the real possibility that an emotionally abusive relationship can turn violent, and someone may be injured or get arrested.

We offer you more than an Emotional Abuse Test

After taking the Emotional Abuse Test, if you learn you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, you need to know how to stop the abuse and protect yourself and other family members.

Once you complete the Emotional Abuse Test, you will find additional information and resources to free yourself from being in an emotionally abusive relationship.

Abusive relationships will not fix themselves! However, emotionally abusive relationships can often be fixed, but only when you take appropriate action.

Emotional Abuse Test — 15 easy questions. Take it NOW!

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The Emotional Abuse Test is based on solid scientific research. It has been designed to help couples determine if their relationship is similar to other couples who live in abusive relationships.

Learn the TRUTH about your relationship.

If the Emotional Abuse Test determines that you are in an abusive relationship, you need to take action.

Know your abuser CAN change for the better IF he or she wants to. No one forces him or her to be verbally abusive, mentally abusive, psychologically abusive, sexually abusive, or financially abusive! And your abuser CAN change for the better.

However, you must start the process of stopping the abuse.

You do this when you take the position that you will no longer accept abuse.

We offer you professional help to end the abuse

Take the Emotional Abuse Test and immediately get your test results. Discover what type of relationship you have.

If your relationship is abusive, get our FREE, The 12 RESOLUTIONS To End The Abuse.

If there is physical violence, you need to get immediate help from trusted authorities. You will be directed to learn more about domestic violence and physical abuse.

We also offer you for only a few dollars our acclaimed book, The 15 Essential Facts Victims of Emotional Abuse Need to Know.

An abuser wants to hurt their partner!

Most people do not want to hurt others. They do not want to verbally abuse, mentally abuse, psychologically abuse, sexually abuse, and financially abuse.

And should they unintentionally do so, they are remorseful and apologetic.

None of this is true regarding an abuser.

An abuser will hurt you and truly believe that he or she has done the right thing!

Your abuser’s justification for hurting you is what makes him or her so dangerous!

In the abuser’s mind he or she is:

  • Smarter than you (more educated, more religious, etc.)
  • Stronger than you (emotionally or physically)
  • More privileged than you (has more money, comes from a better family, has a better job, etc.)
  • More aggressive than you and thus has the right to control you (“might-makes-right”)
  • If your abuser is a man, he may have gender-based rights (mistakenly thinking society or religion gives him these entitlements)

The abuser uses these ‘false arguments’ and ‘gaslighting’ to justify his or her actions that hurt and control you.

In your abuser’s twisted mind, he or she may even believe the pain inflicted upon you is ‘good for you’ — that it makes you a better person.

Act now to stop the abuse

No one should agree to live in an abusive relationship.

If you are in an abusive relationship, you need to reclaim your human right to be treated with dignity, respect, and equality.

Start your journey to a healthier relationship by taking the Emotional Abuse Test.

About the author

Abe Kass, MA, RSW, RMFT, is a Registered Social Worker, Registered Couple and Family Therapist, and award-winning Educator. He has a busy clinical practice in Toronto, Canada, and throughout the world using Zoom and the phone.

After many years of clinical practice and research, Abe concluded that practical solutions requiring a focused effort of no more than a few minutes a day for specific relationship problems were critically needed. GoSmartLife Publishing House has been created to fill this need.

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Is it mental abuse if you tell them something secret and they say they “can’t keep this anymore” even if it’s very little? Like they’re trying to get you into trouble until you’re at a point where you’re literally begging them not to tell because it’s an important secret?

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