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How To Fix A Broken Marriage Without Counseling

Author: MA RSW RMFT

Feelings often lead to action. Sometimes the opposite is also true. Try letting your positive actions lead to positive feelings. Behave lovingly with your partner even if you don’t feel like it and genuine loving feelings may quickly follow.

You may not be convinced that ‘faking it’ makes sense. That’s fine, just try it as an experiment for a week or two and see what happens. You might be surprised!

Think of yourself as a Hollywood actor or actress. You are a gifted entertainer and you can play your part perfectly. Your part in this movie is to behave with love and respect toward your spouse.

You need to convince the audience that you love your husband or wife. Make a list of 10 loving behaviors.

broken marriage wedding rings sitting on counter

You may want to print this exercise for ease of use. Click the Print button below. From there you can also format this exercise into a PDF file or email it to a friend. Note: Printing from a computer works best.

Describe Ten Acts of Love:

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Each day, pick at least three of the loving behaviors on your list and do them. Write down what they were and how your partner responded.

Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner at the time you were behaving lovingly.

As a good actor or actress you know that you are just playing a role, it has nothing to do with your actual or past life. As a performer, you are strictly living in the here and now. Keep this in mind as you complete this exercise.

When you have completed this exercise, set aside some time to evaluate the cumulative results of this experiment.

Day 1

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

Day 2

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

Day 3

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

Day 4

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

Day 5

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

Day 6

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

Day 7

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

Day 7

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

Day 8

What three acts of love did you do?

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What was your partner’s response?
Describe any changes in your feelings toward your partner while you were performing an act of love.

When you have completed this exercise, set aside some time to evaluate the results of this exercise with your partner. Did you notice if it became easier to act lovingly? Did you feel more loving to your partner? Did your partner react warmly to your acts of love? Did your partner act more loving to you? If you like, you can continue the exercise longer.

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Abe has helped thousands of individuals, couples, and families for twenty-five-plus years. When it comes to relationship expertise — Abe is the real deal and can be trusted!

abe kassProfessional Therapist Abe Kass MA RSW RMFT

Abe has helped thousands of individuals, couples, and families for twenty-five-plus years. When it comes to relationship expertise — Abe is the real deal and can be trusted!