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Hi, this is Marriage and Family therapist Abe Kass
Today’s topic: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse if You are the Abuser using The 8 Relationship Guidelines for Past Abusers
If you are a former emotional abuser YOU CAN FIX THE RELATIONSHIP YOU BROKE… and contribute to your partner’s healing.
Know that emotional abuse recovery is a process. Just like any type of healing, it takes time and effort. Don’t rush it!
At this point in time, you may be feeling ashamed of yourself, fearful about your future, and not sure how to undo the mess you have created.
Perhaps your partner is threatening to leave you or has already left, and you want to get him or her back.
To start, know YOU CAN FIX THE RELATIONSHIP YOU BROKE… and contribute to your partner’s healing, and the only way you can achieve this is if you acknowledge your your abusive behavior, and work through it with your partner so he or she can begin to trust you and feel safe around you once again.
Typically, individuals who abuse others either have low self-esteem, or as children grew up in homes where emotional abuse was present, or if you are a man you were taught that men have the right to control women.
If any of this is true for you, you certainly CAN change for the better. There are ways you can find to improve your self-esteem, to educate yourself, so you know how to treat your partner with respect, and to accept that men and women are equal in value.