Do I Have A Healthy Relationship? Take The Quiz And Find Out

Author: MA RSW RMFT

Healthy Relationship Quiz Results

Hi, this is couple therapist Abe Kass, MA RSW RMFT.

Let’s review your Healthy Relationship Quiz score.

Keeping in mind Your Score, scroll-down until you find the range for your score. Then read what your ‘results’ mean.

30 – 26 points

Your marriage or committed relationship is strong and healthy. Keep up the good work!

Identify the ‘good’ you and your partner are doing — and keep doing it! If you need some relationship tweaking — get to it! Fortunate are you to be in a loving, healthy, and respectful relationship.

25 – 20 points

Your marriage or committed relationship is functioning. With some effort, you can make it stronger, healthier, and happier.

You have the fundamentals needed for a loving, healthy, and respectful relationship. However, there are a few areas that can be improved. Doing so will go along way to make your relationship a relationship of your dreams. There are many couple enrichment resources that you and your partner can use to enhance your relationship such as books, classes, or online courses.

19 – 14 points

Your marriage or committed relationship is at risk for failure. You are encouraged to get some relationship help.

The red lights are flashing! You need to make some significant upgrades to your relationship if you are to survive as a happy couple. If you don’t, you may either end up separated or you may retreat into it an emotional divorce while continuing to live together. You and your partner may require couple therapy with a qualified and caring mental health specialist to assist you to fully turn things around for the better.

13 – 0 points

Your marriage or committed relationship is in terrible shape and is likely painful. If you are to survive as a couple, you need to make some significant changes.

Your relationship is on the edge of a cliff and is ready to topple over! You are advised to find a qualified couple therapist to help you turn things around as well you should read books and get other educational materials to learn the proper way to conduct yourself within a committed relationship.

Life is short! It would be a real shame to sacrifice the best that it has to offer by settling for a life of conflict, disrespect, and feeling lonely and unloved. Get help! And in doing so, you should be able to turn your relationship around and make it healthy, respectful, and loving.

A good relationship is based on scientific principles. When you and your partner know what to do, and then you and your partner do it, you can be certain you will have a very pleasant connection with one another.

The Foundation of a Healthy Marriage

A strong marriage stands on pillars of mutual respect, shared decision-making, and emotional safety. When a couple decides on important matters together, they demonstrate that both voices matter equally in the relationship. When they remain emotionally and physically present, even during difficulties, they show commitment to the relationship above personal comfort or convenience. This willingness to stay engaged rather than withdraw forms the backbone of marital resilience.

Trust forms the bedrock of intimate connection. Couples who avoid keeping secrets create an environment where honesty flourishes naturally. Transparency isn’t merely about avoiding deception—it’s about creating a space where truth can breathe freely without fear of judgment. When partners manage anger constructively rather than allowing it to become a destructive force, they protect the relationship from the rust of hidden resentment that corrodes even the strongest bonds.

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Loyalty manifests when you stand by your spouse, defending them in all circumstances—whether in public or private, with family or strangers. This unwavering support creates a fortress around your marriage that external forces cannot easily penetrate. When you work as a team to address challenges, you transform obstacles into opportunities for growth, treating problems not as “yours” or “mine,” but as “ours” to solve together.

Quality time together isn’t merely about proximity—it’s about genuine enjoyment of each other’s company. The safe expression of feelings creates a sanctuary where vulnerability becomes strength, not weakness. Partners who create this emotional safety understand that sharing fears, hopes, and dreams deepens their connection rather than threatening it. In this sacred space, physical intimacy becomes a natural extension of emotional connection, bringing mutual satisfaction and joy rather than obligation.

Extended families significantly impact marriage. When you navigate these relationships skillfully, you create harmony rather than division, understanding that these bonds can either strengthen or strain your marital connection. Your ability to discuss meaningful topics without escalating into arguments reflects emotional maturity and respect—a willingness to hear different perspectives without feeling threatened by them.

True partners prioritize each other’s well-being, recognizing that individual happiness contributes to collective joy. They see their spouse not as a means to fulfill their own needs, but as a person whose fulfillment matters deeply. They contain negative emotions not to suppress them but to express them appropriately, preserving the positive atmosphere between them. This emotional regulation comes not from denial but from wisdom about timing and delivery.

When hurt occurs—as it inevitably will—responsible partners acknowledge their role, express genuine remorse, apologize sincerely, and make meaningful amends. This cycle of repair doesn’t merely resolve conflicts; it strengthens the relationship through honest reconciliation. Such couples maintain reasonable expectations for each other, understanding human limitations while encouraging growth, neither demanding perfection nor accepting mediocrity.

This foundation doesn’t guarantee a perfect marriage, but it provides the framework for a flourishing relationship that can weather life’s inevitable storms. Like a well-built house, a marriage constructed on these principles can withstand powerful winds of adversity while providing shelter, comfort, and security for both partners. When couples commit to these principles, they create not just a union, but a sanctuary where both souls can flourish together.

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Abe has helped thousands of individuals, couples, and families for twenty-five-plus years. When it comes to relationship expertise — Abe is the real deal and can be trusted!

abe kassProfessional Therapist Abe Kass MA RSW RMFT

Abe has helped thousands of individuals, couples, and families for twenty-five-plus years. When it comes to relationship expertise — Abe is the real deal and can be trusted!