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Rekindle Closeness in Your Marriage or Committed Relationship By Knowing Details About Your Partner

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abe kassProfessional Therapist Abe Kass MA RSW RMFT

Abe has helped thousands of individuals, couples, and families for twenty-five-plus years. When it comes to relationship expertise — Abe is the real deal and can be trusted!

Knowing each other is one of the most important of all the relationship building skills available to committed couples. This relationship building skill is well understood by couples who have successfully built a passionate long-lasting marriage or a passionate long-lasting committed relationship.

Keep reading this free advice if you want to know how to fix a broken marriage or committed relationship and restore the excitement and passion you once had.

The ‘knowledge’ you know about your partner distinguishes this relationship from all other relationships. No one should know you as well as your partner. And if they do, it is a problem; it means you and your partner lack intimacy. And for some couples, this could be a warning sign of serious relationship trouble.

couple rekindling their relationship on a trip to France with Eiffel tower in the background

A passionate marriage or committed relationship is one in which you and your partner have intimate knowledge about each other.

Sexual intimacy is a good example of what it means to ‘know’ each other. It is natural for you to undress for your partner and he or she for you. You then excite, stimulate and pleasure each other in ways permitted to no one else. In doing this, you learn about each other’s bodies and very personal feelings. This sexual intimacy is only one very important way of ‘knowing’ each other. Sexual knowledge is natural, comfortable and healthy and when continued over time will build you and your partner a passionate marriage.

Sexual knowledge is only one type of knowledge necessary to a healthy, happy and long-lasting marriage or committed relationship. In fact, the more you ‘know’ your partner, the closer you and your partner are and will continue to be in the future. Take this free marriage or committed relationship advice and use it well.

If you and your partner don’t know each other, your marriage or committed relationship will be lifeless, cold, and without much value to either of you.

Following is a short list of a few questions which will give you some idea of what is important, liked or disliked, and desired in the future by your partner. Your partner should also know the same information about you.

Answer each question and request that your partner also answer these same marriage questions.

You may want to print these marriage questions for ease of use. Click the Print button below From there you can also format this exercise into a PDF file or email it to a friend. Note: Printing from a computer works best.

Do you know your partner?

Answer “yes” or “no” to each marriage or committed relationship question indicating whether or not you know the answer:

1. Do you know the name of your partner’s favorite restaurant(s)?

2. Do you know where your partner would like to go for a ‘dream’ vacation?

3. Do you know how your partner currently feels about work?

4. Do you know one of the best ways to get your partner sexually excited?

5. Do you know your partner’s greatest life disappointments?

6. Do you know who are your partner’s three best friends?

7. Do you know your partner’s core values (honesty, loyalty, health, etc.)?

8. Do you know how your partner feels about his or her parents?

9. Do you know how your partner feels about your marriage?

10. Do you know what type of people your partner avoids?

11. Do you know how your partner spends his or her leisure time?

12. Do you know what is your partner’s favorite holiday?

If you answered ‘no’ to more than a few of these questions, your knowledge of your partner is deficient and you are advised to improve your relationship building skills if you are to build a passionate marriage or passionate committed relationship.

You can easily improve your marriage or committed relationship by investing more time and effort into getting the inside scoop about your partner. At the same time you need to discover new ways to fix a broken marriage or committed relationship that lacks excitement and warmth.

When you and your partner have finished this survey of marriage or committed relationship questions, exchange them and take turns discussing and asking questions about each item. This is an opportunity to get to ‘know’ each other better and build a passionate marriage or committed relationship. Also read Relationship Healing Toolbox for more Free Marriage Counseling Worksheets, Power books with insightful videos.

Make up your own questions

Take turns asking each other questions about yourself as a way to teach your partner more details about what is important to you. When he or she answers incorrectly or gives an incomplete answer, just add the details that are important. For example, ask your partner, “What is my favorite movie and why?” or “How come I am no longer friends with Bob?”

These bonus marriage or committed relationship questions are a good opportunity for both of you to learn about each other and in addition to learn what is important to each of you regarding what you want your partner to know.

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